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What can parents possibly say or do to convince their teenager to stay away from drugs and alcohol? Plenty. Parents don't always realize the influence they have. Studies confirm teenagers whose parents spend time with them, teach them standards of right and wrong, set reasonable limits, and show love and support are at less risk for substance abuse.
Spend time with your child
Families who eat meals, participate in activities and spend time at home together protect their teens from substance abuse. It's often hard when both parents work or for a single parent to find time to spend with children. But it is one of the best investments you can make.
Talk about tobacco, alcohol and drugs
Parents should start talking to children about substance abuse before they become teenagers, and continue the conversations throughout the teen years when pressures mount to experiment with drugs and alcohol. Parents can tactfully make it clear that they oppose use of addictive substances.
Listen carefully
Keep the lines of communication open. Student surveys say when parents really listen to their children's concerns and feelings, kids tend to feel more comfortable talking to them, and are thus more likely to stay drug-free.
Set limits and enforce them
Establishing a family policy regarding drugs won't do much good unless your children know their limits. Children need to be made aware of the consequences of violating rules and that an adult who cares is watching their behavior. Get to know your teenager's friends, as well as their parents, and monitor your child's comings and goings.
Teach values
Openly communicate family values and expectations of behavior. Teaching and discussing religious or spiritual principles and moral values can help a child to develop a sense of morality. Social, family and religious values give young people reasons to say "no" and stick to their decisions.
Discuss what makes a good friend
Peer pressure is important. So talk with your child about what makes a good friend. A 12-year-old can understand a friend is someone to share values and experiences, respects decisions and listens to feelings. Your children will understand that friends who pressure them to drink or smoke pot aren't friends at all.
Encourage fun, healthful activities
Children who are involved in wholesome activities, such as after-school activities and sports, are more likely to make friends and develop interests that focus their energies away from drugs.
You're a role model
Be a good role model for your teen. Examine your behavior and attitudes toward alcohol, tobacco and drugs, and recognize that what you do is a more powerful message than what you say. Drinking or smoking excessively undercuts well-intentioned discussions with your child. This is not to say that you must stop having wine with dinner or an occasional beer or cocktail. Children can understand and accept the differences between what adults may do legally and responsibly and what actions are inappropriate and illegal for children.
This article was reviewed and updated June 2007.
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